I didn't PMO but just browsing the ads gave me a major dopamine hit, and now I have anxiety, a natural response to the surge, I suppose. You will be lucky if you don't find a killer, a thief, or a rapist. You better find a gf or take a cold shower to kick the dopamine away. Have you tried meditation? Facundo , Mar 2, Craigslist casual encounters ads was my tipping point with porn addiction and i ended up with PIED.
Plus many of those people are dirty. Find a reputable dating site if need be but youre better off trying to establish a meaningful connection with someone.
Nickd , Mar 3, I thought I was alone in being addicted to those casual encounters ads I would always feel ashamed of myself afterwards for browsing them, but during the time it was a rush I would check them constantly I think that was a large contributor to my addiction as well. I treat them as still being porn. Just stay away from them. Try to find a girlfriend, a hook up at a party or something, a club, a bar I would stay away from craigslist Nickd , Mar 6, I chose a guy who wrote a real message.
There was punctuation in it! My hope had been to find a hook-up for that weekend, but after many creepy messages, I slowed down. I chose a guy who had made me laugh.
We talked for about a week everyday and then met for coffee. He was hot and funny and it was on! We would meet up randomly, whenever we could manage.
Mediocre conversation, but I wasn't shopping for conversation. As a female, it was a bit scary. A lesson in caution, I think. I have since searched a couple of times on Craigslist for NSA sex. Once I was stood up by the same guy three times. The other time was much like my first experience: For women it's really easy. You have a shit ton of guys send you responses Sometimes I have the same really ugly dudes try to respond to my ad at different times and it's kind of infuriating.
Some also will just do it for the sake of trolling if you post your ad with photos or have too many specific requirements. I didn't believe the latter part at first but after having people reply to my e-mails and tell me I'm "fake" or a "whore" or "flagging just for laughs", it happens a lot more.
It's pretty discouraging for real women who want to use craigslist. Also forgot to mention about another guy who I met who was an incredible find on craigslist. I was working in Hong Kong and this guy was an Australian expat who was a few years older than me. We both met with no expectations of anything happening and we got along very well throughout our drinks so we ended up back at his place and had a very hot and passionate night of incredible sex.
He was cute and average, but man was he great at sex! I'm a girl, started to post ads on CL a couple of month back new year, new adventures yea? Did not know what got into me and did not know where I found the courage to post such thing.
Was brought up and hang out within a semi-conservative community, so essentially casual hook up is frowned upon. One day I was thinking what the heck, let's do this. My first encounter was meh. Second time with a different guy was nice actually, he was shy but friendly, had a good time but never met again.
Third time was boring. Fourth time was with an army just got back from Afghanistan. Was bad cause he came too quick. Finally fifth time was a charm, the guy was nice, had a nice home, and was really good with his tongue. Ultimately, the sixth guy that I met on CL was my favorite so far. He is much, much older than me, about 20 years older.
He is single, have a nice job, nice car nice place. We watched movie at his home and had sex, and in the morning he even made me breakfast. So, basically, it's a trial and error process. You might meet someone you have chemistry with, or someone blergh. I say "current" like I've had one before, but that's not the case. Anyhoo, I was browsing my city's CL, replying to the ones I found interesting, just to throw as many hooks into the water as possible, basically.
Hers was called something like "Cougar looking for a cub ," and I wrote her asking if 32 was too far out of the age range she was looking for. It obviously should have been, but she replied that it wasn't out of her range, but that at 32 herself she might not fulfill the cougar fantasy I was looking for. I didn't have a cougar fantasy, exactly, I was just looking for sex, or so I thought.
We exchanged plenty of emails and got to know each other before we met in person. It turned out that what we both seem to have been looking for was a friend that we could fuck. We both thought we just wanted sex, but neither one of us really has that many friends in town, so a FWB-type relationship works out really well for us. We've had really great chemistry, sexual and otherwise, up to this point.
Point of my rambling story being that it is certainly possible to meet up with someone over CL's Casual Encounters. I wouldn't have thought so myself, until it finally worked out for me. If I may assume that you're a male looking for a female partner, just be prepared to deal with a LOT of them not working out. Be as clear as possible about what you want from the beginning, and keep at it.
Is 32 "cougar" now? Maybe "puma" or "leopard", but I thought 40 was the "cougar" demarcation I had no idea actually I was anticipating that she'd be in her 40s just based on my preconceived notions of what a "cougar" was, but I suppose I'm not up-to-speed on the finer points of the lingo.
She apparently isn't either. Ask me if I care: Puma is a women in her Cougar is Jaguar is So technically her add should of read "Puma looking for a cub ". My now girlfriend started as a casual encounter 8 months ago, I've never been happier!
Not a guarenteed outcome though! I put the ad up, sayin it was my birthday, it wasnt, haha but she hit me up and i told her it was kinda a joke, but i was single and it was a friday, so i asked if she wanted to meetup, and she was down! So i showed up, expecting to go to a bar or club or something, also kind of expecting a dude or ugly girl, but she was exactly what she said she was, a cute little asian girl, and she asked if i wanted to go to an arcade to kill some zombies before we went out drinking.
I was hella down, and it was a great very chill night, we ended up back at her place, had sex all night, and i slept over. In the morning we had more sex, and i left at like 1. She texted me that she had a great time and i asked if she wanted to do it again sometime. She was down, we kept it casual for a month or 2, and then decided we wanted to be exclusive and date, and its been mostly good since then! My family knows how we met, hers thinks we met at a party lol.
The main downside was for the first 5 months or so, a lot of guys she had messed around with off CL would hit her up for sex, and that started to piss me off, but she has since changed her , and not too many problems with that since then!
In the end, i would suggest keeping it casual as much as you can dont get emotional with the girls, at least at first , but honestly you can have a lot of fun. Oh, and if you make an ad seeking a girl, prepare your inbox for a lot of guys asking to blow you or other stuff haha. Most of them will take a no thanks as a response tho! My one ad got me 4 dudes, and 3 girls in 4 hours inquiring hahaha.
Not myself, but one of my best friends did. Big guy, muscles, srs bsns kind of dude. Met a chick, had coffee, then went home. He wasn't interested in her, let her down easy. She then went on to stalk him, harass him, and send him love letters any way she could.
I'm not saying that it's not worth trying, but be careful. Be wary of people who lie about what they look like or use other people's photos to misrepresent themselves, always meet in a public place first, and always use condoms. Honestly you're better off using a site like OKC. Easier to weed out the freaks, drug addicts, and sleazeballs.
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