In my experience, most of the clients of my former agency felt the same way. One of the biggest preconceived notions people have is that all women who work as prostitutes are forced into it, and that the men who spend time with them are using them and degrading and devaluing them. The above scenario exists, but is not always the case. As a madam, I ran my business with the same mind-set my boss had. I expected the men to treat my girls well.
Money was exchanged for companionship and girls were encouraged to set their own boundaries. I was picky about my clientele — I expected them to value the girls and be appreciative. I trained my phone bookers on how to evaluate clientele over the phone and determine who gets an appointment and who does not. I turned down many potential bookings because they just did not feel right — or because they did not meet my screening protocol.
I ran my business like a business. The girls who worked for me did so by choice. None of them were forced to do anything and they could leave a booking at anytime if it did not feel right or they were uncomfortable.
These bookings happened behind closed doors. The girls were not forced to stand on a street corner or disclose their real identities at any time. They went to bookings in jeans or slacks and a nice sweater. The more demure and unnoticeable, the better.
Clients did not want the girls attracting unnecessary attention, and neither did I. The women who worked for me were beautiful, smart and funny — and they had goals. Many of them had college degrees and were trying to pay off debt or were artists pursuing a dream. Many of these women viewed their roles in the sex industry as empowering because they were working toward a goal or because the money they made helped better their life.
I am in no way trying to minimize the dark side of prostitution. I spent four years working with sex-trafficked women in my nonprofit, Hope House, and have seen both sides of this industry. However, that is a topic for another post. It is my ultimate hope that we can decriminalize prostitution so that the women working have legal protection under the law.
Much of the abuse and violence in this industry occurs because women are afraid to report crimes against them for fear of being jailed. Decriminalization would allow them to call the police without fear of backlash and would ensure the police help them. While most agencies are completely professional and trustworthy, it is always useful to know for sure which are good to deal with.
Escorts in Amsterdam are undoubtedly the most expensive way to experience paid companionship. The hourly rate begins at euro and gets more expensive. However, this price reflects the quality of companionship and a higher class of lady than in the windows of the Red Light District or in one of Amsterdam sex clubs.
For those who can afford it and are seeking discretion, the convenience of having the escort come to you, or some enjoyable companionship in addition to erotic services, Amsterdam escorts offer all these services. These agencies tend to be divided in to regular and high class escort services. These agencies are just as discreet and professional as the higher class agencies, but are more affordable.
The services are slightly more limited and the time of companionship on offer tends to be shorter. Below you can read about one of the best regular service agencies in Amsterdam:. The high class services are price sensitive, high quality and professional. These high class agencies provide companionship for anything up to a week and tend to offer very sophisticated and intelligent women...
What do you offer and what do you draw the line at? And how much does it cost? Light bondage I think is a bit more. These are all items on the menu priced by the brothel.
I do not offer oral sex without a condom either. I still see my casual sex partners regularly, but it's less of a necessity. There was also a booking where I played pool for four hours naked in high heels. That was especially fun. Do you find sex with paying customers truly arousing, or are there certain customers who just don't turn you on?
What do you do if you're not in the mood? When I'm not immediately attracted to a guy I try to find some common ground or something about him I like. If I'm just completely not into it, which doesn't happen, I fake enthusiasm and use a lot of lube. How often do you have sex in your personal sex life?
And what's the most outrageous or risky sexual thing you've ever done? The most outrageous would be some ropes and bondage. I was here to see a powerful woman. You see, her reputation surpassed her. And to have a madam sell you meant proper money. Her chestnut-colored hair sat perfectly coiffed, long and just the right amount of bounce.
My focus trailed this collection of women. Footsteps and creaking could be heard getting louder and heavier. A large stranger with a mop of thick grey hair appeared in the doorway. He wore a monogrammed blue blazer. He was probably fifty years old, handsome and healthy looking. I stood there in my short, white, pleated cotton skirt and low-cut black fitted sweater, waiting for him to decide if, at twenty-one, I was a little bit old for his tastes.
We automatically grasp onto the assumption that these lewd women through history have provided a service to the naturally amorous male populace. If we are talking about prostitution wholesale then we should divert our attention to Industrialization , which is when gender roles took a cultural turn. Medieval women were understood as being as prone to lust as men, if not more so. Industrialisation changed gender roles completely.
Capitalism, a concern for second wave Marxist feminists, saw a complete re-ordering of family relationships. It became the norm to conduct business outside of the home. Middle class women were assigned to the domestic sphere whilst their businessmen husbands adopted a brand new autonomous lifestyle, at the same time enshrining notions that women and men were different. This spread down to the working classes where women would slave away in factories coupled with caring for their children whilst men departed to drinking holes after the working day.
Neither class of women had legal personhood; this privilege was vested in the man. This was the setting for a brand new time of sexual liberation for men — foregrounded within the Capitalists new control over women. The digitization of porn , is accompanied by a big escort scene. Pimps have girls professionally photographed and suitably airbrushed to make them look ethereal, then sell them online. Typically, the girl will be available and on call for five days and nights per week.
After all sex is a trillion-dollar business. It pays men to keep men thinking on these terms. A madam who is still on the London scene today sends her girls to Dubai for weekends with a Prince. The best type are the ones with minimal sex or none at all, which is the general consensus of the girls, whereby they are put on pedestals and taken shopping. Another truth that I learnt from experience is that most of the men are married. There are arguments to say that escorting is easy money, and maybe to some it is.
I left home very young, having had a troubling relationship with my mother, and was quite vulnerable. I soon ended up in the glamour industry , and at the mercy of much older men, modelling and dancing — but sometimes also escorting.
After my time escorting, something inside died. The worst thing I heard someone say to me, taken from a spiritual doctrine, was that every person who ever fucks you leaves their essence with you. Vikki Dark is a British writer and academic whose oeuvre spans erotica, biography and transgressive fiction. Her latest book, about an adult film star, focuses on contemporary feminism relevant to cyber culture and sex. Men are hungry beasts when it comes to sex. They want all the satisfaction for themselves.
It is a bit embarrassing. I simply love these call girls and escorts. I mean, being married with kids is good, but as a man I need my urges satisfied as well, which my wife of course can never do. But yes, the sex is just awesome.
I might regret it afterwards but thinking about one touch, one blowjob and one damn strip tease— that is all it takes for me to lose control and cheat. When I was in my early twenties I visited a brothel in Germany. I was young, the women were alluring, and the idea of legal prostitution was new and exciting to me then.
I paid 70 marks for an experience that lasted less than 10 minutes. I found it empty and rather hollow. That was my one and only time.